Showing posts with label cousins. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cousins. Show all posts

Sunday, August 16, 2026

Slidell, The Big Easy, The Monkees, and Blue Crabs

 Slidell, The Big Easy, The Monkees, and Blue Crabs

One of my favorite childhood memories is a summer vacation trip we took to Slidell, Louisiana.

My dad was born late in my grandmother’s life and, becaus of that, he had several nephews who were actually pretty close to him in age. One of his favorites was John Rooker, the son of my Aunt Audey. At the time, John was working on an oil rig somewhere out in the Gulf. As I remember it, he worked a week on and then had a week off.

John lived in Slidell, Louisiana, and sometime during the summer of either 1966 or 1967, he invited Dad to load up the family and come down for a visit.

Me and my sisters, Janet and Lisa, were absolutely beside ourselves. We were taking a road trip—a real road trip. Before then, the farthest we had traveled from Leeds, Alabama, was to Panama City Beach or St. Augustine, Florida. Louisiana seemed like it was halfway across the country.

Dana hadn’t been born yet, so it was just Dad, Mom, Janet, Lisa, and me.

On the morning our trip began, we all piled into Dad’s 1964 Impala SuperSport and hit the road. I don’t remember much about the drive itself. Dad pretty much drove straight through, stopping only once or twice for bathroom breaks. There were no video games, cell phones, tablets, or movies to keep three kids entertained in the back seat. We had the scenery, each other, and probably more than a few arguments over who was taking up too much room.

Somehow, we survived.

When we finally pulled up at John’s house in Slidell, we practically exploded out of the car. After all those hours riding, we were ready to move.

Our cousins Donna, Tammy, and Jonathan were waiting for us. Donna was about the same age as my sister Janet, Tammy was a few years younger, and Jonathan was probably four or five at the time.

While our parents unloaded the car, us kids headed straight for the backyard, where John had built some sort of cabin for the kids to play in.

Or was it a treehouse?

After almost sixty years, some of those little details get fuzzy.

What I do remember is that the thing was awesome.

When it was finally time to go inside, all of us kids kept yakking away about the important things in life—our hobbies, school, and, most importantly, The Monkees.

Donna had the new Monkees album, and I’m pretty sure we played “Last Train to Clarksville” at least a hundred times during that visit. If the adults got tired of hearing it, they never let on. Or maybe they did and we just weren’t listening.

After dinner, everybody finally began to wind down, and eventually we shuffled off to wherever we had been assigned to sleep.

The next morning brought one of the biggest surprises of the whole trip.

Dad and John left early and headed somewhere down toward the Gulf. A few hours later, they came back carrying a burlap bag filled with live blue crabs and shrimp.

Now, for a kid from Leeds, Alabama, this was something to see.

John had a huge cast-iron kettle set up over an open fire in the backyard. He filled it about halfway with water and spices, then added the blue crabs, shrimp, potatoes, and corn on the cob.

While everything cooked, he covered the picnic table with several layers of newspaper.

Once it was ready, there were no fancy serving dishes and no carefully arranged plates. They simply dumped the whole steaming mess right there in the middle of the newspaper-covered picnic table.

I thought it was wonderful.

There was something about being a kid and being told it was perfectly acceptable to reach into that pile with your bare hands, grab whatever looked good, and eat until you couldn’t hold another bite.

Crabs. Shrimp. Potatoes. Corn.

We ate until we were thoroughly stuffed.

I remember sitting there thinking that we ought to eat like this all the time.

That crab and shrimp boil became one of those childhood meals that has stayed tucked away in my memory all these years. I have eaten plenty of good seafood since then, but none of it has ever tasted quite like that.

Maybe it wasn’t really the food.

Maybe it was being a kid.

The next few days were pretty normal. The adults sat around relaxing and talking about whatever it is adults talk about while they think the kids aren’t listening.

As for us, we spent our days hanging around Donna’s room listening to The Monkees, playing outside in that cabin—or treehouse—and enjoying the simple pleasure of being with cousins we didn’t get to see very often.

Eventually, though, it was time to start thinking about home.

Since Slidell sits just across Lake Pontchartrain from New Orleans, there was no way Dad was going to take us all the way to Louisiana without visiting The Big Easy.

So we said goodbye to the Rookers, piled back into the Impala, and headed toward New Orleans.

We drove onto the Lake Pontchartrain Causeway, and to three kids from Alabama it seemed like we were driving straight across the ocean. Janet, Lisa, and I stayed glued to the windows, looking out at water in every direction.

Twenty-four miles of bridge seemed impossible to me.

Now here is the strange part.

I really don’t remember much about New Orleans.

You would think a place like New Orleans would have burned itself permanently into the memory of a kid, but apparently it didn’t. I remember walking the length of Bourbon Street, but at that age there really wasn’t much there that interested me.

What I remember much better is what happened afterward.

We got back into the Impala and headed toward Pascagoula, Mississippi, where Dad had more cousins.

They lived on a large farm, and fortunately for us, watermelons were in season.

Not just watermelons.

Huge watermelons.

Dad’s cousin told us kids to go out into the field and find a couple of the biggest ones we could find.

Well, you didn’t have to tell Janet and me twice.

We headed into that field like we had just been given the most important assignment of our young lives. Before long, we found two monsters that we were convinced had to be the biggest watermelons in Mississippi.

There was only one problem.

We couldn’t carry them.

Dad and his cousin eventually came out and hauled them back to the car for us.

The trunk of the Impala was already packed with luggage, so those two giant watermelons had to ride home in the floorboard—one behind Mom and the other behind Dad.

I imagine those watermelons probably had more legroom than us kids did.

Once we left Pascagoula, Dad high-tailed it toward Leeds.

The minute we got home, Janet and I started hounding him to cut one of those watermelons.

And I have to tell you, those were the best watermelons I have ever eaten.

Ever.

Were they really the best watermelons ever grown?

Probably not.

But in my memory they were.

Just like that crab and shrimp boil.

Just like Donna’s Monkees album playing “Last Train to Clarksville” over and over.

Just like that cabin—or treehouse—in John’s backyard.

And just like three kids staring out the windows of a 1964 Impala SuperSport as their dad drove them across Lake Pontchartrain toward a place they had only heard about.

Funny how memories work.

Almost sixty years later, I don’t remember much about Bourbon Street. I don’t remember where we stopped for gas, what motel we may have stayed in, or most of the miles we traveled.

But I remember the blue crabs.

I remember The Monkees.

I remember those watermelons.

And most of all, I remember being with family.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll probably say it again.

The best trips aren’t necessarily the ones that take you the farthest or cost the most money.

Sometimes the best trips are the ones where you pile into an old Chevrolet, go visit some cousins, eat something with your hands, play the same record a hundred times, and come home with two giant watermelons taking up all the room in the floorboard.

Those are the trips you remember.

 family and friends are the best.



Thursday, June 19, 2025

Cousins Make the Best Friends

 

Cousins Make the Best Friends

When you're a kid, cousins are more than just extended family—they’re your first best friends, your co-conspirators, your partners in crime. For me, time spent with the Barber cousins was golden, filled with scraped knees, laughter, and long summer days that seemed to stretch on forever.

I was still in elementary school when Aunt Nell and Uncle Dan moved their big family from Gate City out to Markeeta, Alabama. They settled into a house on the winding Markeeta Road between Moody and the far end of Lane Drive. Back then, that area was wide open for exploring—woods, fields, and the old strip mines that carved their way through the land like scars from another era. It was a boy's paradise.

Aunt Nell and Uncle Dan had six kids—seven, once Cindy arrived. Layne was the oldest, and I thought he was the coolest guy on earth. He played trumpet in the high school band and spent hours listening to Herb Alpert and the Tijuana Brass, working tirelessly to master “The Lonely Bull.” Next came Danny—quiet, thoughtful, and strong. He was into weightlifting and had a strange habit of inviting us to punch him in the stomach just to prove how tough his abs were. After watching a documentary about Houdini, I remember thinking that might not be the smartest challenge to offer.

Then there was Tony, the artist. He had a real gift and went on to become art director for a television station in Dothan before eventually answering a higher calling and becoming a pastor. Curtis was closest to me in age and probably the smartest of the bunch. He could identify every military aircraft by silhouette, sound, or shadow. No surprise, he ended up a teacher and later a school principal. Then came Stephen, the jokester and tagalong. He was always up for an adventure and usually the first to start laughing and the last to stop. Cindy, the first girl in the lineup, had to be a little tough growing up in that house full of boys, but she held her own with charm and a sharp wit. And finally, there was William—funny, energetic, and endlessly entertaining. He had this ridiculous trick where he’d tuck his ears into his ear canals, run up to you, and pop them out at just the right moment. It never failed to make us laugh.

Weekends and summer days were filled with adventures. We'd hike the strip mines behind their house, wade in creeks, and roam as far as the Cahaba River. Sometimes we’d end up at a place called Blue Hole, a swimming spot near the Trussville Golf Club, or clamber over the massive concrete ruins of the old Washer Camp from the coal mining days—remnants long since buried under layers of dirt and time. After a day out in the Alabama sun, we’d come back to Aunt Nell’s kitchen for a steaming bowl of her goulash with a slab of cornbread on the side. Looking back, I think I would’ve moved in with Aunt Nell and Uncle Dan if I’d had the chance.

Eventually, Uncle Dan answered the call to pastor at Markeeta Baptist Church, and later the family moved again, this time to Harpersville. They lived in a big two-story house we called “the Hill House,” perched behind a cotton field off Highway 280. It had a cellar—always a mysterious place to a curious boy. My sisters and I would visit, running wild through the cotton fields, walking the railroad tracks, and exploring every nook and cranny of that old house and town.

By the time they moved to their next house, Layne and Danny were both grown and married. Curtis had taken to showing off the model airplanes he built with painstaking care. One summer, Curtis took me fishing at a little stream that ran through a nearby pasture. I scoffed at the idea of catching anything in such a shallow trickle—until he pulled out a big bream with his first cast. After that, I was hooked—pun intended. We fished together many times after that, upstream at the spring-fed pond that fed the creek, often tying our rods to our bikes and pedaling off at first light.

It’s funny how vivid those memories are—fishing in the summer sun, climbing through woods and ruins, chasing each other around the mines, ending the day with a meal and a good laugh. Life was simpler, sweeter somehow. And even as time passed and we all grew up and scattered, those moments stayed tucked away in my heart like prized possessions.

Today, I’m on the downhill side of life, and I find myself thinking more and more about those days. We only seem to come together now for funerals, standing in quiet circles of grief, catching up in hushed voices. But I want to change that. We’re all retired now, or near enough to it. Wouldn’t a cousins reunion be something? We could sit around swapping stories—about the time Layne let us ride around the mines in his VW Beetle, or when someone stuck a dart in William’s head (we all remember it; no one knows how it happened), or that wild first car ride with our cousin Kenny.

There’s still time for laughter. Still time for stories. And if I close my eyes, I can still hear the cicadas buzzing over the pasture, smell the goulash in Aunt Nell’s kitchen, and see William running at me, ears tucked in tight, ready to pop.

Cousins really do make the best friends.


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